Some guys only dream of it and enjoy the vicarious pleasure that only a secret fantasy can bring. Others actually make the step from fantasy to reality and live their fantasy and still others want to move into reality but just don't know how to go about it.

It's interesting to note that many people once they have tried swinging ultimately decide that it wasn't all they thought it would be and don't continue on with it while for others it becomes a lifestyle full of fun and excitement.

Let's look at some ways of making that leap from fantasy to hardcore reality and consider some of the reasons why some people find that they don't enjoy it quite as much as they thought they would.

First let me say that, while swingers groups can be found just about everywhere, they tend to keep a low profile because there are still many people who feel that swinging (wife swapping) is just not socially acceptable That means that actually finding a group in your area can be a little difficult. However if you are reading this on UK's desperate wives.com UK then it is possible to find a swingers group in your area.

Some groups do place discreet ads in their local newspapers but few advertise on a regular basis. One group that I was involved with would only place a very small ad in the adult section of the classifieds a week before the group was going to get together.

Other groups are invitation only and they never advertise. Couples are usually encouraged to attend by other group members and outsiders will rarely hear anything but rumours of groups like that.

And there is the word that stops many guys in their tracks when they try to join a swingers group, ‘couples'. It is very rare for a swingers group to ever be open to single guys. Single girls don't have a problem but single guys are rarely welcome simply because any group that does accept single guys quickly becomes swamped with men. Being swamped with men, means that there are not enough women to go around.

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Wife swapping AKA Swinging

I look at wife swapping as being something between couples. I have experienced it first hand and can honestly say that it was very enjoyable but at the same time some things shocked me. My experiences have taken me on journeys where sometimes some of the things that some women do to ‘mark' their territory (the other couple's man) was quite amusing to the stage it was sad. Fortunately not all of us are like that.

I have also found that many people have different definitions for wife swapping. Some see wife swapping as something that is straight to the point ‘Recreational sex between consenting adults' and as you can see there is not reference to whether they mean couples or singles.

For some wife swapping aka swinging is openly consensual non-committal sex between adults while for others there is no way that swingers can be single. It is very important for many couples who are single that when it comes to swinging it must be group sex not just partner swapping.

Many people do not believe that most singles can be swingers. There are some couples out there that are single, they are not married but they are still a couple. However some swingers will accept singles into the swinging ‘arena' but realise they do not have anything to swap when it comes to ‘swinging'.

When it comes to accepting couples as singles the commitment to a lifestyle similar to that as it applies to couples is acceptable.

Really we need to look at swinging as being about couples, exploring sexuality together. This sexuality involves others… So you see, swinging can be very interesting really when it comes to deciding who is a true swinger… but then everyone's views are very different.

WIfe swapping can be any interesting way that may spice up the sex life of people.

A lot of guys feel that to enhance the sexual desires by being part of a swingers group, however most groups require you to be a part of a couple or in some cases it's ok to go along if you are a female.

He wants to be part of a swingers group where he can shag the horny wives of other men. She may feel a little bit apprehensive and doesn't want to be pushed, or she feels the need to enjoy the extra attention from other men and possibly women and He Does get a little jealous when other men have sex with his wife…

If there were one fantasy that is shared by almost every man on the planet it would be the thought of swinging. It seems that every guy at some time in his life entertains the thought of sharing his partner with other guys while at the same time he enjoys sex with those other guys' partners.