Safe sex swingers practice safe sex when swapping your wife!

There is a fine line between a pleasurable reality and a horrible nightmare and jealousy is something that can help you across that line very quickly. So think about it even before you suggest it to your partner and think about it with your brain rather than through the end of your cock.

The other thing to consider when it comes to swinging is sexual health. It may not be exciting and it may not give you a hard-on but you really do need to consider the fact that if you join a swingers group you will be having sex with total strangers and you just don't know where they have been or who they have had sex with.

There are groups out there that do not practise safe sex and do not require guys to wear condoms. It really is up to you but my advice would be to think before you join groups like that. The risks and dangers are simply too great and nothing can end a beautiful sex life faster than a sexually transmitted disease.

So, if you're still interested and you want to learn more and have some places on the net that you can take your partner to if she wants to find out more, check out these links.

Wherever you are in the world you should find something on one of the many message board out there for your country, state and area. But if you are in the UK you can check out the UK Escorts board UK E-scorts.com because they have a link to UK swingers' ads and there is also a board for swingers listed also.

As you surf those sites and maybe even post on the boards just remember that they are open to everyone. There are people out there who lurk on those boards with a view to ripping off genuine swingers. A couple I know of had to deal with a blackmail attempt after they posted their details and several photos.

As with all things, exercise caution and discretion. Swinging can be the most erotic experience if you are careful and that is what life is all about, having fun but staying safe.

On that note to all readers of UK E-scorts.com, there are times when fantasies can come true… and when it comes to swinging, I recommend that there should be joint decisions when it comes to swinging. Check out the social groups before hand if feeling a little apprehensive. Apart from anything else their nights are a lot of fun when it comes to socialising first.

Links of interest

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That doesn't mean that swinging is out for single guys, there are some commercial venues that do encourage single guys and I did notice that a group that is listed on UK's desperate house wives does have guys advertising for couples to swing with. But to access the more private swingers groups you really do need to be part of a couple.

Of course that opens the way to yet another problem. You want to swing but does your partner? Many women are not receptive to any suggestion of swinging and there are many reasons for that.

Your partner may simply not be interested in having sex with other men. She has one partner and that is all she wants in life. If that is the case then you really must respect her wishes. Forcing her either directly or with mind games, into doing something she does not want to do will only lead to disaster and turning fantasy into reality becomes turning your fantasy into a nightmare.

Your partner may find the prospect of swinging to be quite exciting but she may have personal image problems that prevent her from ever doing anything like that. She may feel that she can't compete with all the attractive babes she thinks hang out in swingers groups.

If that is the case then talk about the possibility of finding a group that has social evenings for new members. The first group that my partner and I attended ran social evenings and I found that getting together for drinks at a bar was a great way of breaking the ice.

I found that the other women were just ordinary girls, no more and no less attractive than me, and that helped me feel very comfortable and willing to go further. I was also surprised to find that the guys thought I was just as attractive as the others and a trip to the bar with two of them to order drinks turned into a pleasant little grope session.

How do you actually start a conversation with your partner about swinging? Look for an intimate moment, a suggestion of something naughty or cheeky and move on from there. Stress that you want to do it together and it is to be something that you both can enjoy.

It is also worthwhile to point out the social aspects of swinging and the new friendships that can be developed.

Never suggest to your partner that you want to try swinging for some excitement because the first thing that will suggest to her is that you are bored with her. That will raise her insecurity levels to the point where she won't consider swinging at all.

There is one other reason why your partner may reject the suggestion that you become swingers. She just may know you better than you know yourself. Be realistic here for a moment. How would you really feel if you had to watch your partner getting gang-banged by a group of well-hung men and she was very obviously enjoying it?

Of course, right now you're going to dismiss that as being of no consequence at all, but, is it? Think about it, for years she has been faithful to you and you have had an adequate sex life. Now suddenly you're watching while she is screaming her head off in an orgasm the likes of which you have never been able to give her.

Would you really be comfortable with that?